I'm pretty sure every married person has thought about divorce, not just once, not just after they were married and way before things get to the point of "irretrievably broken beyond repair". I thought about it for years. didn't see myself doing it for a number of reasons that maybe I will get into later. I actually scared myself into staying but things were not getting better and there was no sign of better days or progression or whatever. I had to swallow my pride and sanity for a while to leave. For anyone that has done it or even tried to do it and went back, its a hard thing to do. I see how people get back together. Its the familiarity among other things, but there has to be change after the first flag is thrown for things to work out the second time if there is a second time. Didnt see that happening on either side in my case, and everyone knows there significant other to know if that will work or not. That being said, it is an interesting process to say the least. Here are some things that they don't tell you.
Things they dont tell you....
Its not easy. New routes to work. Finding dinner. Holidays are different (or better depending on how you had it). Dating has CHANGED. Women only dance in circles of themselves at the club. Everybody broadcast everything on social networks. Thats also how they do your background check. Texting and sexting is overrated, I prefer direct interaction. Women have to stop claiming their are no good men, you only like the bad ones. And why are women weed heads...not cute. Moderation is better, no throwing up at the club because you drank to much. Strippers are FUN. Almost all women are looking for the full monte fast. And then they throw you the drawls on the first night. Moral of the story....women confuse the hell out of men. Chivalry is dead and women executed that mother fucker...one shot to the head type murder death kill stuff. It almost doesn't pay to be nice to women. Holding doors, speaking, smiling, acknowledging them in any way automatically puts you in boyfriend category for some reason. No I don't want to meet your kids on the second date. Honesty is overrated, I answer all questions like I'm in court, no self incrimination and no extra information needed. Nice guys like sex too. Lawyers are expensive and sometimes useless. They basically seem like they are googling the same shit you ask them. Other times lawyers are needed, people are spiteful. You can't put it on a woman either...they are instantly in love. You get more desirable the older you are (compared to the competition...we are the shit now, got a car, job, all of our teeth, can hold a conversation, make em climax, just to name a few...we are HIGHLY desirable). All of those things didnt matter to most people when we were younger, it was still like high school. That takes some time to get used to. Nobody is off limits now.
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